tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-64358131970206445232024-02-20T11:46:10.938-05:00IncidentsOh, you know. Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.comBlogger584125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-22967544737345357472016-08-18T13:01:00.001-04:002016-08-18T13:01:16.221-04:00Poltergeist. <span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.32px;">Ryan's new kitchen knife flew off the wall and stabbed me in the leg. There was a lot of blood and handwringing and I ruined a pie and dinner. If I ever needed a beer it was that night. Aside from the whole blood-thinning aspect.</span><br />
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<br />Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-64875407163899308832016-08-02T10:57:00.002-04:002016-08-02T10:57:42.953-04:00Weary PugToday, I encountered a lady half-lying, half-sitting on the pavement, outside a pizza place. I noticed her about a block or two away, she had a funny blue mobility trike thing - not electric - next to her and a small dog.<br />
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The small dog was an extremely overweight elderly pug who wore a weary expression, punctuated with a tongue that he was either unable or could not be bothered, to keep in his mouth.<br />
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"My dog..my dog has dislocated his hip and I need to call my friend."<br />
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I said, "Of course." and dialed the number she gave me - she seemed not to want to take both hands off the dog and asked me to dial. She left a message for her friend, while the phone was ringing, she explained that she had a broken foot and gestured to the trike.<br />
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She left a message for her friend - I posited that her friend had not picked up because of my out of the area area code. I asked her if she needed anything else, like help getting into a chair.<br />
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"No, no. I need to be down here with him."<br />
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She patted him on the butt and he looked around wearily. I don't think he gave a shit where she was, but lying on the ground with him seemed to make her feel better.<br />
<br />Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-48341643563913896492016-07-29T18:36:00.002-04:002016-07-29T18:37:21.969-04:00Das VampireElinor bit one of her school friends.<br />
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I was probably not the right parent, between her two parents, to be the one to deal with it with regards to the school's representative. I basically just got a little weepy and then hugged Elinor.<br />
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I'm sure they thought that was bizarre but in that moment, where I was mortified, upset, worried, anxious, and feeling vulnerable, I needed a hug and I couldn't very well ask the teacher's assistant for one.<br />
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Ryan would have probably told Elinor it was unacceptable behaviour, thanked the teacher's assistant and in general have had a much less weird reaction.<br />
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I think what made me feel so upset was that initially, when I was brought into the directors' office for a quick mention of the situation, they mentioned that she had apparently been "acting out" more.<br />
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The teacher's assistant, with whom the main meeting about it was (Elinor's teacher was out for the day), didn't mention anything like that. But all I could think after I heard "acting out" is that she is unhappy why is she unhappy is it my fault?<br />
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I asked her if she still liked going to school and she assured me she does. She's very cheerfully making pizzas with her dad right now. I have no idea why this is so emotionally overwhelming.<br />
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I went blueberry picking. This is a picture of me in a blueberry field. I like it because my sunglasses, (which I bought because part of me wants to only wear huge glasses, oversized men's white dress shirts and undersized hats, possibly with a sweater vest and or a tie/silk scarf, part of me is not brave enough,<br />
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God I feel huge.Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-73927075451361175192016-07-24T17:31:00.003-04:002016-07-24T20:08:34.313-04:00Multi-level Marketing SchemesIt's slowed down a bit, but after I had Elinor and after I made friends with some mums of kids of a similar age, more and more examples of multi-level marketing schemes started popping up in my facebook feed.<br />
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At first, I was annoyed. I thought, "My goodness, these are intelligent women! Why are they falling for this crap?" </div>
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Weird food products. Tat jewelery. Wall decals. Skin and hair care products. Essential oils (ugh). Healthy living plans. Sex toys. </div>
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And then, it made me a little sad and a little angry. Because I think I know what was actually going through their heads. You're home with tiny kids and it feels like you never have quite enough money or possibly an outlet for non-kid-related stuff. And you come across this thing that promises money, a little bit of independence but without sacrificing the time with your kids or the money it would mean to get a job, even part-time.<br />
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<br />Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-58016579771705090222016-07-20T13:52:00.003-04:002016-07-24T20:15:54.372-04:00I have nowhere to put my saddle. Not to get maudlin, but I have nowhere to put my saddle and I feel like it's becoming a metaphor.<br />
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Marie Kondo would probably tell me to get rid of the dresses and maybe the saddle because both things just make me sad right now. But Marie Kondo is kind of full of shit on a lot of things.<br />
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Right now, my saddle is just getting moved around the house. I don't want to put it downstairs because it will get ruined. I don't want to put it in the loft at work because I don't have a good enough cover for it. If it were something of Ryan's that was just floating around the house, I would be so annoyed about it. I am annoyed about it, but not as much as I might be.<br />
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I can't do 20 minutes. It's unbearable. I managed 10 today.<br />
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Moxibustion and acupuncture were also suggested and now I'm facing a question I had only thought about theoretically prior to now. Exactly how far down the woo-woo path am I willing to go to attempt to avoid major surgery?<br />
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It's one thing to contort myself on my couch at home, it's quite another to have to go to a place, pay, politely grin ("Am I doing this right? Am I convincing them that I don't think this is total hokum?"), nod and <i>listen</i> to nonsense while someone lights a candle next to my toe.<br />
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Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-13490412998839681912016-07-07T11:41:00.001-04:002016-07-07T11:41:04.487-04:00A Toaster Oven Story<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: inherit;">I fell victim tp my toaster oven's stupid "turn past off if you'd like to unknowingly burn the shit out of your toast" function.</span><br />
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She came to visit for a few weeks and then about a week after she left, a toaster oven I did not order arrived on my porch. She had gone home, decided I needed a toaster and then purchased it without asking me or Ryan. It did not occur to her that possibly the reason we did not own a toaster oven was because we, perhaps, did not want one. </div>
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And she said nothing to us on the trip. No, "I wish you guys had a toaster oven" or "How do you get by without a toaster oven?" </div>
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Not only did we not want a toaster oven, the toaster oven she bought was not the toaster oven I would have bought were I trying to buy one. </div>
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First of all, it's huge. We do not have the counter space for it, so when we do use it, we have to get it out, plug it in, use it and then put it away. </div>
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Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-54444678458173739282016-07-04T11:58:00.000-04:002016-07-10T19:29:13.774-04:00Ryan's trip to Hell.Ryan is getting sent on a business trip next week. He leaves Saturday. I've been hearing about it for a while now, small pieces of what the trip will be like.<br />
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Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-49410652141920538192016-06-20T21:59:00.001-04:002016-07-24T20:12:20.089-04:00Trip back to IthacaWe went back to Ithaca this last weekend for a wedding and saw a lot of our friends. It was a bittersweet weekend and I kept getting teary and a little angry at Ryan who doesn't think he can find the right job there. I told him it was awful that he was trying so hard to make getting back to California work but seemingly unwilling to work that hard to get back to Ithaca. Sure the job market might be better in the bay area, but I don't want to live in the bay area. It's full of the same people that live here, in Massachusetts.<br />
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I'm fairly certain it's possible, we just have to want it enough to make it work.<br />
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Maybe I'm being too selfish, but I feel like after eight years of Ryan's work dictating where I live, I need to be a little more demanding or I'm going to be miserable.<br />
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<br />Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-50051818652241697502016-05-17T13:05:00.003-04:002016-05-17T13:05:30.356-04:00Essential oils to prevent Zika. I think it may be possible that there are going to be children born with microcephaly due to people using essential oils instead of real mosquito repellent.<br />
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It's really horrifying to think about.Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-60343933227443141372016-05-15T14:39:00.000-04:002016-07-10T19:31:13.042-04:00Living in Massachusetts. I live in Massachusetts now. I have been here for a year and a half and I still have to use spell check when writing out Massachusetts. I think my lack of motivation for actually learning how to spell the name of the state in which I live is a clue: I do not love it here.<br />
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I can't actually locate it again, so I can't actually link to it, but if you are curious, I'm sure google will help you with finding similar. They were ideas like, "Put your kid in a set of pyjamas that say something about it and have him put the kid to bed."<br />
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During my search for that stupid article, I found a pinterest page of ways to announce it to the world including SEVERAL pictures of a presumably first born holding a sign that said,<br />
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Um. Condolences? Is this really a nice way to tell them?<br />
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Do you want to know what I did, when I found out I was pregnant again?<br />
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This baby was not entirely unplanned but I also would have been perfectly comfortable to not have another one. I was actually ambivalent about going through the whole thing a second time. Ryan wasn't. So, half of me plus a whole Ryan outvoted (I guess?) the other half of me. That half was freaking out a little bit on the bed that day. That same part that spends an inordinate amount of time trying to understand other people's motivations instead of just ignoring them.<br />
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Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-79496251660747561392014-10-06T13:11:00.001-04:002014-10-06T13:11:59.412-04:00That gum you like...Twin Peaks is coming back!Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-72310712732925652522014-10-01T17:40:00.001-04:002014-10-01T17:40:54.715-04:00Black lentils. Polenta. Woody Allen. I made <a href="http://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/spiced-black-lentils-with-yogurt-and-mint" target="_blank">this</a> black lentil dish last night. I used Trader Joe's European Style Yoghurt instead of greek because Trader Joe's European Style Yoghurt is delicious.<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Today my attention was brought to the artwork of <a href="http://jennifertrask.com/Jennifertrask.com/Jt_Home.html" target="_blank">Jennifer Trask</a>. There is something I really like about the aesthetic. Something almost Victorian but executed in a modern way. </span></div>
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Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-77033412331047324992013-09-23T15:09:00.001-04:002013-09-23T15:09:27.673-04:00Kidney Stones Are Not Amazing. One of my facebook friends posts stuff about her various cleanses* and things she finds inspirational. Today she posted the following: "Start looking forward to the times you feel uncomfortable. Because on the other side of that is something amazing."<br />
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I was sorely tempted to post, "Unless it's a kidney stone." In the interest of being nice, though and also taking into account that people who use the word cleanse generally don't have a very good sense of humor, I did not.<br />
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*I do a cleanse several times a day, as a matter of fact. Basically, I go into the bathroom and void my bladder of urine. I feel so refreshed afterwards.Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-69720298975550770682013-09-21T10:14:00.002-04:002013-09-21T10:54:59.895-04:00Good Bread, Bad Clients2 Things:<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The complaint was: "Unfortunately -- way too much time was spent on "work"....how he needs to take this off, unbuckle this, clean this, put this back, hang this here, do this that way -- that he lost interest. He is 7 years old (!) and was looking forward to enjoying himself. I feel badly because its an opportunity lost for my son." </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Here's the thing. No exaggeration, I had him WATCH me untack and put things away and then brush the pony. The exclamation point after the "7 years old" is especially infuriating because when I was 7, getting to brush a pony would have been the highlight of my week. It still kind of is. Then we put the pony away and I told him to tell her "thank you" (I always instruct my students to say thank you to the pony when they put them away). </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"> So, while I do not feel that I did anything wrong, nor do I feel that I would do things differently, nor should I and I also know that if she took her son anywhere else, he would have the same experience, I can't help feeling truly gutted and am full of self-loathing. I actually went to bed early last night because of it and had to have a good cry about it again today.</span>Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-19803971783086376402013-09-12T15:43:00.001-04:002013-09-12T15:43:11.546-04:00Horse Sales Videos with MusicI'm thinking about sending a query to Practical Horsemen. I've been stumped as to what it might be, but today I actually thought of something. A plea for horse sellers to stop using music in their sales videos.<br />
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Georgi emailed asking about sales horses and I promptly fired off a descriptive email regarding the particular sales horses that I thought would be suitable for the particular buyer in question. Then, because were I work is fairly organised and they are really great about keeping their website up to date, I was able to forward 3 videos of sales horses.<br />
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Why? Because it had music. A lot of horse sales videos have music. A LOT. And it is always, always, always the worst. Think "Bittersweet Symphony" or anything by Coldplay. And for those who are aware of copyright law, it's always some awful synthesized easy listenin' track with pan pipes bought cheaply from the video production company who informed the seller about copyright law.<br />
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Pretty much the only excuse as to why. "But I/someone was yelling/talking/singing while the video was being made."<br />
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The other place I think it comes from was horse show videos from the 90s. Some horse shows had videographers, so you could get a "professionally made" video of your rounds. And to (I think) justify the cost, they put cheesy graphics and added music. This was very impressive in the 90s. It looked as good as local news show b-roll! (we couldn't make things ourselves that looked that good back then). I believe that horse people are stuck in a bit of a time warp sometimes and because this was done in the 90s when, perhaps, they started their business, they think that all sales videos should have music over them. And the tradition continues.<br />
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<br />Incident Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05973475926432012169noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6435813197020644523.post-41997983876523319262013-09-08T21:57:00.001-04:002013-09-08T21:57:56.586-04:00Not crazy!I turned 32 a week ago yesterday and for my birthday, I received clear evidence that I am not a crazy person.<div>
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